Yes. I am born-again. I am a father for the fourth time (get it, four kids) with ages ranging from late teens to infant.
The wonderful thing is I get to do it all over again. The terrible thing is I get to do it ALL over again.
Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Instead that goes into the jar for Junior’s college fund (split 4-ways of course.)
So as one child steps into adulthood, college, adult decisions whilst another can barely walk, it gives me time to think. Is/was this a monumental waste of time or are they getting what I am trying to teach them?
You would think I would have written a book by now. I read other blogs of parents saying how many kids they have and that they are experts. Well I am here to tell you there is no expert out there. Kids, for the little sociopaths they are, are self-serving. You can steer them along the straight and narrow but you cannot shield them. You can only give them the background — a spine if you will — to make a decision right or wrong and to stand by that decision whatever the result.
Me being the bad guy/disciplinarian well, I like things done a certain way. I want things done when I need them to be done. Not after their video game but now. I know when to pick my fights. I know when to put my foot down. I ask them if they did their best. If they can honestly say to themselves — honestly mind you — yes I did my best then win or lose that’s all that can be asked of you. I preach this to my kids. Wonder if they listen.
So are we all doomed? I feel it sometimes but you take the good with the bad. Or as my father always says, “Plan for the worse. Hope for the best.”
You can only hope that their best is good enough to succeed in life because after all, isn’t that what we all want for our kids?